This is not another funny post. This is not a post about summer. This is not a post about Geneva. This is not a post about where to go or what to do. This post is simply about life. Four letters, one little word, still there are so many emotions and notions and events in it. While so rich, while so immense, we often neglect to think of what it is really all about, how complicated it can be at times for us or others. And right at that point, there is something happening around us, close to us, maybe far, but still close enough to affect us, that obliges us to stop. To stop our life for a moment and think about… life.
Such an event happened recently close enough to some of us. Somebody we knew or have met live, or online, somebody, that we might have just been aware of their work or have read just a little comment under a post, left us. Left us all. For this other world, that we know so little. For this other life that some might think it is better than this one. I can use many words, several indirect notions, to just imply what needs to be actually said. Somebody committed suicide. So this is for you, new angel. You left the party early to find peace. I hope you found it even if I do not agree with your way. But this is also for all of us, because one thing is always there, no matter what we go through: HOPE! And this is for me too…
Since a teenager, whenever I heard about such an act, I had the same reaction. Tears. Anger. Guilt. All of these and many more feelings that have an explanation rational or irrational (without really caring about either adjectives in this case). How helpless or hopeless can one feel to do this? What could I have done to prevent this? Hey, I am not a fashion blog. I am a real person behind a little screen that shares what life is about. RAW. I have suffered from depression myself. The real and painful kind that you can find in the medical textbooks. Should I be ashamed to mention or admit it? I let worry about that, the people who would have preferred to know how I look like, instead of this truth. And I move on with my writing here. As I moved on with my life. It was difficult, it felt helpless, it felt hopeless, it felt terminal. But it wasn’t. I managed to not let it be. From the very deep, the very dark, I got up, kicked its ass (sorry for the language) and I… moved on. Although it is today just a bad experience of many years ago, but at the same time a learning phase about me and life, I remain sensitive to anybody who suffers from it.
I wish I could help every single person that suffers from depression through being a friend, a shoulder, an ear. Use me if you feel like it. I promise I will be there. In the meantime, the least I can do for the masses is to bring attention to the topic. I am not a doctor, I am not an expert in the topic. I do know that if one of the 3 things are happening to you, then you are safe: if you laugh, if you feel you love and if you can work. This is what I was told back then. However there are more symptoms to diagnose a depression and that’s why I am copying an article from psychology experts. There is even a test to check if you or somebody around you might suffer from any degree of depression.
Before getting to the symptoms, I want to bring to your attention a high-risk group. And this is new moms. One in 10 women suffer from post-natal depression (also known as post-partum or baby blues). Google it and you will find zillions of insights about it. It is real, it is legitimate, it is popular. Don’t judge it, you or others. Do not ignore it yourselves or for others. Pretending a monster is not there, does not make the monster disappear.
Depression has a social stigma. Let’s not allow it. Let’s open our minds and hearts and ears and address it. We should all care about maintaining a healthy life, and thus seeking and offering help, instead of worrying about our image. Focus on life instead of the image of life…
10 SIGNS OF DEPRESSION
1. Sadness, low mood and anxiety, or often a combination of these. It could include crying for no reason. In depression some combination of these negative feelings usually persists for at least a couple of weeks.
- Low motivation: a general loss of interest in things a person used to find enjoyable. It could include loss of sex drive or interest in work, socialising and hobbies.
- Low energy: a feeling that normal daily tasks are too exhausting. It may also include being unable to get out of bed at the usual time, speaking slowly and having unexplained aches and pains.
- Changes to sleep patterns: people who are depressed often find their sleep is disrupted. They have difficulty getting to sleep and may wake frequently in the night.
- Poor concentration: finding it hard to make decisions or finding that negative thoughts take over the mind. As a result, people with depression can also feel very restless or impatient.
- Hopelessness and helplessness: thinking “What’s the point?” and seeing little hope for change in the future. Depressed people often describe feeling ’empty inside’ as well as out of control.
- Weight change: people with depression may lose weight or gain weight depending on how they respond. The weightchange, though, can be an important sign of depression.
- Thoughts of death: while thinking about death occasionally is normal, becoming preoccupied with it is less so. Depression can lead to an unhelpful focus on death. Self-harm or suicidal thoughts may follow.
- Worthlessness and guilt: depressed people blame themselves for their situation. This lowers their self-esteem and creates feelings of guilt and worthlessness.
- Self-medication: using alcohol, cigarettes or other drugs more than usual.
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